Help! My social skills suck!?
lots of people like me and tell me that I am extremely charismatic, but sometimes I am just awkward as hell and people say that they don’t want to hang out with me because they can’t relate to me and that I’m too much for them. I have gotten a lot better about the awkward thing, but sometimes I say things that are just weird. I actually think a lot before I speak, but I am extremely clueless most of the time. on top of this, I just can’t relate to people and have difficulty establishing mutual interest. most of the things that interests people like sports, gossip, and talking about the past are of no interest to me. I on the other hand am interested in stuff like human nature, fantasy, adventuresome activities, and business (I’m studying to become an entrepreneur). even the interests that we have in common (fashion, alcohol, girls, fighting) I can never get anyone to talk about one of those things for more than like 2 minutes. I just feel like most people are these primal creatures with instincts that I just don’t have and I’m a confused quasi intellectual dude. it’s not that I don’t like people, I’m generally funny, playful, and affectionate, but they seem so different from me and I can’t understand them most of the time.
anyway, does anyone know how I can become less weird and relate to people more so that I can form more lasting bonds with people?
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They will hate on you because it is empowering for them. They get a rush off it. It can be quite difficult to get them to stop or to empower yourself so that you don’t have to deal with that anymore.
It won’t matter how many jokes you know (although learning a few online is a start) or how well you dress, smell or how kind you are. The only way to fit in is to turn the tables, if just for a time, and get to a place where you can look down upon them. Join a club, a sports one. Work out, get stronger, get better grades. Make them jealous and then exploit the weakness.
You can still be passionate about things but try to lighten up when you are out with friends. Try to talk about some of their interests, you are smart so research what people your age are into…then you will have similarities to talk about
you need yo be more out going and social change your ways
Shut your mouth.
I mean that in the nicest way possible.
The basic problem with human nature is that no one really cares what YOU think. They just want to barf up what they’ve heard, or what they want, or what they think. And they want you to listen. So when in doubt, stay quiet. Then, eventually, 1 of 2 things will happen:
Firstly, and most likely, you’ll snap. You will end up hating people, or at least some, and will be a lot more aware of them. Even though this sounds bad, it’ll be easier for you to figure out who you can connect with right away.
Or, secondly, people will open up to you. They’ll get tired of hearing only themselves, and either they’ll listen to what you have to say, leave, or at least talk about something you’re interested in. Girls and drinking and fighting and fashion are all more private things that won’t be discussed at length to a stranger, but they’ll feel closer to you if they just hear an echo.